2009-08-24 Identity Update

I live in Pickup Mansion in Hollywood. I was born in New York to two immigrant Chinese parents. I have Nice Guy syndrome and Brad has been helping me out with that.

I love to travel. I lived in NYC most of my life and since discovering the rest of the world I’ve been itching to do more of that. I want to backpack through Europe and South America. I want to take a road trip across the US. I want to visit Australia and New Zealand. I want to live in Shanghai for a year because it’s so different: laws are more like guidelines, I don’t speak the languages, everything is cheap. I want to retire to someplace like Thailand, where it’s a sunny paradise yet the cost of living is so low.

Travel costs money, so I am trying to become a bartender. With bartending skills I can travel the world and make money while building my social skills and hopefully get laid a lot. To achieve this, I am looking to become a bar back first, and move up to bartender.

I’m currently playing bass for the Pickup Mansion band. I practice bass every day and annoy my housemates. I frame control away the complaints. =)

I’m a raw vegan but occasionally I eat meat or cooked food. I’m also learning more about the nutrition in the food I eat.

I don’t like owning stuff unless it’s absolutely necessary. Maybe I watched Fight Club too many times. I treat myself (No More Mr. Nice Guy) by cleaning my room. Part of cleaning my room is throwing out shit I don’t need. Having everything clean and organized makes me feel happy to be in my own room. (Ironically, my mom always told me to clean my room, but I never listened; now I’m doing it for myself.)

I want to be close to my family but I don’t want them trying to influence me.

I want to exercise. I have it on my todo list to do pull-ups, crunches, push-ups, run, or yoga every day. So far I’ve only been doing pull-ups sporadically, and rarely or never done the others.

I’d like to set up a passive income in the far future, but in the near future I am getting mobile skills as a bartender and planning on living in cheap places where the US dollar can carry my far.

I’d like to become a pickup instructor, to travel around the world picking up women.

I was a snowboarding instructor and may teach snowboarding again someday.

I used to do a lot of stuff with computers but I want to move away from that lonely lifestyle.

I want to always have a lot of free time. I don’t want to work more than three days a week, or maybe a few weeks on a larger project. I think living in a cheap country will allow that.

I like watching movies: classics, movies by notable directors (Tarentino, Kubrick), movies with great actors (Edward Norton, Brad Pitt, Christian Bale, Johnny Depp), movies that make you say, “What the fuck?” (Fight Club).

My identity in order of how it attracts women:
1. Bassist
2. Bartender
3. Traveler
4. Raw vegan

My Dreams:
1. Become an excellent bassist and perform on stage with bands I admire (Rage Against the Machine, Muse).
2. Retire in Thailand, get massages every day, eat fresh food, breathe fresh air.
3. Backpack through Europe, South America, Australia, New Zealand, Asia; road trip across the US.
4. Never work a 9-5 again; work 3 days a week max.
5. Own my own lounge, have it cool according to my standards.
6. Snowboard around the world, following the snow as the seasons change.

Things I can do to start pursuing my dreams today:
1. Practice bass every day.
2. Do research on Thailand.
3. Plan a trip to Europe, South America, Australia, New Zealand, Asia, or US.
4. Get experience as a bartender.
5. Go out and make connections with nightlife owners.
6. Plan a trip where there is snow.
7. Get a job as a bar back, move up to being a bartender.

My identity including dreams:
1. Bassist
2. Practice bass every day.
3. Bartender
4. Traveler
5. Get a job as a bar back, move up to being a bartender.
6. Raw vegan