Day 55/360: Electric Venue

Checkup by Mr. P himself. We talked about my progress, starting with Hell Girl. I told him I’m giving up on her because of her intimacy issues (she limited me to short kisses on the lips, I couldn’t go for the neck or ears). I described my date with her and how I did everything I could. I described realizing that I needed comfort building and getting Hell Girl to come to me once I shared my identity. Brad suggested I practice empathetic listening to girls by saying, “Tell me more about that,” et cetera to let girls feel emotions as they talk.

I told Brad how Drew inspired me to learn teasing.

To help my comfort building, I wanted to work on identity scripts. Dylan’s really good at those so he’ll be helping me, whether he wants to or not!

We talked about how I have an edgy and scary presence (“hardcore Asian”, as some girl described me) and show contrast in my personality by being nice and funny. We discussed my hair: it’s too dark right now and I want to get it lighter. Pink will be my next color. Also I will be going for a cut where I can easily look just-got-out-of-bed.

I told Brad that I was ambivalent about some style choices, because I don’t want to clone him. Not that he minds, if it works. But for every change I make, if it’s similar to Brad I ask myself if I want to do it because I think it will look good on me, or if it’s because it looks good on Brad.

I criticized aspects of 30/30 but Brad said that they were there for a reason.

We discussed Tyler Durden’s Implementing a Habit post, about how I can’t relate to those who are burned out because I just feel that it’s a daily routine for me now. I wake up, I piss. It’s 9 p.m., I go out and hit on girls. Brad said he was the same way, but others don’t have it as lucky as I do. Most people have full time jobs that took a lot of energy from them, and pickup takes a lot of energy. I described how I did my 30 day challenge: I had to be in bed by midnight every night for work the next day, so I always ate dinner after work, then gamed until 11 p.m. By the second or third week, I felt antsy staying home at night.

I said I hated the social freedom exercises, that they always brought my state down in the past. I could probably score really high now, but it was such a bad experience for me that I didn’t want to do them again. Every time I did them in the past I would spend two to four hours on them, and then I’d be too tired to approach girls. Brad asked how I increased my social freedom, so I told him that whenever I felt reluctant to do something due to social pressure, I would logically figure out the repercussions. If the repercussions were bullshit, I would force myself to do it, to teach myself that it’s okay. Plus it’s what I wanted in the first place, so I felt better. For example, sitting on a clothing rack next to the cashier. What’s the worst that can happen? They’ll ask me to stand up? It’s not like they would arrest me. Brad said I don’t need to do the social freedom exercises because I created my own set. That was a relief! Though now that I think about it, my reluctance to do the social freedom exercises means I must do them. Oh the irony!

We discussed the ways I pump my state up: dancing; warming up; acting pissed off; getting pissed off at myself for not approaching (which gets me into the pissed off authoritative mood); getting pissed off for being a pussy when I follow Brad P.’s system, which emphasizes having balls; Tyler Durden’s Implementing a Habit post; carpet bombing; and telling myself that I’m here to learn. None of these techniques work 100% of the time, but I do each of them and hope one of them does.

Brad wanted me to share these techniques with the rest of 30/30 and wished I would fuck Hell Girl and get my online coach status. But the roadblock isn’t just disinterest, it’s also her intimacy issues. She would be a waste of my time.

We discussed Brad’s experience with direct and natural game. Natural game sells well because everyone wants to just “be themselves” but if you’re socially awkward and not an alpha male (yet), it takes too long to become the alpha male. Direct game sells well because the opener usually brightens up the girl’s day and it seems like the girl’s super attracted, but all the girl feels is that she’s suddenly got a huge ego and she loves herself. But she’s not attracted to the guy.

Brad said he tries to teach guys using techniques he knew worked back when he was learning, back when he sucked. Right now he could probably do natural and direct game and still fuck girls, but that’s because he’s now an alpha male. So he tries to field test new techniques with his students to make sure they work for socially awkward guys to get the most effective results.

I said I still hate the phone. Of course I know what I need to do.

Finally I finished my lovely chat with Brad. I went on a dinner date with the Asian chick, she enjoyed herself. I got back Brad invited us to hang out with him. I succumbed to his charisma.

1. C>5 P: I saw two girls at the bar. They weren’t that hot, but I needed to warm up. Horse girl, they loved it. I asked if she was smart, she said she was dumb. I started dumb/hot/rich but was interrupted. We were touching each other and the friend was entertained. She was failing my qualification questions so I told her she was losing points. She said she’d e-mail me something, so I got her e-mail and yes-laddered to her number. She said she was going to the bar, but she circled me before leaving. Usually “I need to go to the bar” meant she didn’t want to talk to me anymore, but this time I got the feeling she wanted me to follow. I didn’t follow because I didn’t want to seem needy or stalkerish. So I lost the girl instead.

2. B: I saw a girl sitting by the bathroom. There wasn’t enough room for me to sit next to and I feared failing to get her to scoot over, so I opened standing in front of her. Horse girl, it wasn’t her. She was interested and leaned toward me. I demanded her name and got it. Then her friend came out of the bathroom and told me her name as she pulled my target away. Oh well.

3. B: Nomad and Mr. S were discussing a couple and a girl sitting on a couch. I took the challenge and walked to the girl. Just as I arrived, another couple sat where I wanted to sit and open. Nonetheless, I stood in front of the whole group. The positioning was awful. Horse girl would be too long to do. Sex last week. Her friends went, “Oooh!” She didn’t hear it. I repeated, “Did we have sex last week?” in my most chill and authoritative voice. She looked disgusted. I said, “No?” and left.

I got good attraction from my first approach and almost everything correctly for the other two, except for positioning.

B: 2
C>5: 1
P: 1