Anything needed or desired can be broadly categorized by four factors: looks, immediate satisfaction, long term satisfaction, and variety. This can be used to describe food (looks, tastes, nutrition, and variety), cars (looks, the feeling when driven, the gas mileage and sturdiness, and variety), and women (looks, sex, compatibility, variety).

These categories are usually prioritized differently depending on the person and their agenda. Most parents will tell their children to only prioritize long term satisfaction. Most friends care about all four do different degrees.

When it comes to women, though, most people are very adamant that everybody agree to their specific prioritization.

Parents want their children to have a compatible spouse, first and foremost. Secondarily, looks, since they will have to be seen together eventually. The other two are forgotten: they don’t care if the girl is good in bed, and they definitely don’t want the child to have a variety of women. The last point is a selfish one, oftentimes: they want their child to settle down and have grandchildren.

Men naturally want all four attributes in women, even if society has suppressed these urges to the point of disbelief. Instead, society promotes the idea of a soul mate, a specially crafted woman from God, just for you. Usually the first woman you have a long term relationship with is expected to be your soul mate; despite any flaws she may have, a man is expected to overlook it, because even though your supposed soul mate isn’t perfect, she’s perfect for you. (Keep trying to convince yourself that “she’s perfect for you” and not “she’s all you’ve got”.)

Agendas

Parents have agendas, to have grandchildren and to make sure their children are stable, because stability is comforting.

Women have agendas, because they want the man all to themselves.

Why does society view highly men who have a lot of women, but shun those who try to get more women? Passivity? It’s not their fault, they just attract a lot of women.

It’s strange that men are encouraged to go for a woman who they are compatible with (long term satisfaction), but of course the first thing people judge is the girl’s looks. Sexiness, or sluttiness, (immediate satisfaction) is often the first thing men judge a woman by. Variety is sought once a man has a woman, of course.

 You may search for your soul mate for a limited time; depending on your geography, you have anywhere from 18 to 30 years. After that, you need to settle for something, anything. Don’t forget, once you are with a girl for a few years, she is your default soul mate, even if she no longer attracts you, has sex with you, or treats you with any dignity. Sometimes men 

Most men do not get enough food. They are simply starving. And so, the first piece of food they get, they hold on to for dear life. Even if it doesn’t look good, doesn’t taste good, and may be poisonous, they hold on to it, because it’s better than nothing. And after a few years, they feel that they’ve been together for so long, they should just try to keep making it work, no matter how much their body and mind resent it.

For men such as myself seeking new food, it is an interesting journey. It is natural for me to want a variety of great looking, great tasting, and super nutritious food, but I am shunned by most.

Most people view this quest for new food to be a reckless one. “You can’t just sleep with one girl after another! You’ll just wind up old and lonely! You’ll break lots of girls’ hearts!” 

Some people view food purely for their nutritional value, usually parents advising their children, and tell them to go for a girl who loves you, will do anything for you, cooks, cleans, is polite, et cetera. Looks are not that important, and neither is the taste. Of course, the parents are (hopefully!) not the ones who have to look and eat the food, so they don’t care about such things. They only care that the food is making you healthier.

If you do not have any, you will be starving, and you need some, any that you can get. And usually, most men can find some food, and they will latch on to it for dear life, worried that they won’t be able to get another piece of food.

I’d like to reach the point where I can choose my own food, for my own reasons.

Most people, especially parents choosing for their sons, try to choose food based on bland reasons, such as nutrition, is it healthy, does it make you feel good after eating it. This is equivalent to a woman who loves you for who you are, does the chores, isn’t a gold digger, et cetera. But that doesn’t take into account how the food looks nor how it tastes.

Some people are pigs. They just try to eat as much food as possible, which there is nothing wrong with, in my opinion. To each their own. Most people say that that’s bad, because it leaves a trail of destruction (hurt women), plus it leads to gluttony.