2008-10-28: Date

I was still exhausted from the workshop over the weekend, but suddenly realized I was supposed to go on a date with train girl. I texted her:

me: Hey were we supposed to hang out tonight?
her: Yes
me: Can we meet at 9? (this was at 6:30, I just got out of work, I needed a big nap)
her: Ok
me: Okay let’s meet at _______!
her: Ok

I woke up late, didn’t have a chance to shower or really fix my hair, but I brushed my teeth. I figured she probably had enough attraction for me to not be at my best. I arrived at 9:15, but she was nowhere to be found. I texted her and called her, but she didn’t pick up. I figured I was flaked on. That’s okay, I’m out and about. This is why I meet girls for dates at the same place I meet new girls, so I can just meet new girls if I get flaked on.

As I was searching for unicorns, I got a call from train girl. It turns out she’s late, and wanted me to meet her where she was. I didn’t feel like going there, so I told her I’ll just wait for her here instead. She said she’ll be there in half an hour. I told her to hurry.

There were several reasons I didn’t want to meet her where she was:
1. I was lazy.
2. I didn’t want to be her little bitch boy. I was late, but she was even later. Why should I go out of my way to meet her?
3. My location was close to my place, so it made it easier to pull her.

Fifteen minutes later, she arrived. I was chilling at a supermarket, hydrating myself. We met up, chatted a little bit. It was a lot warmer in the supermarket than outside, so she started taking off one layer after another. I teased her and encouraged her to take off more layers. I noticed she got a boob job, but didn’t mention it. Instead I asked about her martial arts class, because she had previously mentioned that her martial arts had to be suspended because of her boob job. So she said she hadn’t been going because she got “the girls”, and was wondering why I didn’t notice them. I said I noticed, but I didn’t feel it was appropriate to just talk to her chest. I then proceeded to talk to her chest for a few minutes.

I remember Brad’s eBook saying that when a location is staled out, we should move to someplace fresh. We were getting to the point where conversation was slowing, so I proposed we go for snacks at a store that I knew had only two seats outdoors, and was also near my place. We went there, got our snacks. It turned out there was seating in the back. The guy asked if I wanted to have it to stay or to go. I said to go; we had previously talked about watching a movie at a theatre, so I mentioned that my roommate had a few movies I hadn’t seen yet, and we could watch one while eating. She agreed, we went to my place.

I should mention that, for the first time in a year, I paid for a girl’s food and drink. It came out to be about $7.

We arrived at my place. I have a rug, she has to take off her boots. Texted my roommate to not come back. I put in a movie, I sat in the middle of the couch, she sat to my left, with her legs blocking me. I had difficulty moving my hands because of her legs, so I used the pretense of her being cold to get up, get a comforter for the two of us, and in the process we both shifted our bodies closer.

Her fingers were wiggling for some reason, so I put my hands on hers and asked what she was doing. She said she was trying to keep warm. I slowly moved my hands to her knees, shoulders, thighs, back, under the armpits, side of the breasts, cupped her breast, inner thighs, between the legs.

I wussed out. I didn’t jump her. Instead after my escalation stopped at her breast and between her legs, she realized how late it was and had to leave. She got up and started getting dressed; the movie hadn’t even finished. She stood in front of me with her back to me. At this point, a kiss means nothing and means everything. I grabbed her by the waist, turned her around, and kissed her.

She finished getting ready. I put on my jacket and walked her to the train station. I contemplated staying in the warmth of my place, but I figured I should be nice to her, since I got this far. I also wanted to go farther, so I didn’t want to blow my chances of future sex. It was also a good chance for us to act like a couple: I had my arm around her the whole walk, and we kissed a few more times.

She seemed genuinely sad she couldn’t stay, at least to finish watching the movie. She kept apologizing for being late and having to leave so soon.

Well, I certainly did a lot of things for the first time that night!