As I was walking to meet my friend, I passed by a girl standing on the corner by herself, listening to music. I decided she’s too good to pass up, doubled back, and opened her direct. I asked her what the craziest thing she’s done, she said I don’t want to know. I asked her what was on the agenda tonight, she said she’s meeting someone for dinner but he’s late. I told her she should come with me, she laughed and said no, then she’d be the bitch. I told her he’s the one who’s late, she laughs and declined again. As a last resort I asked to see her again, she said she’s sort of seriously dating this guy, but said what I did was very ballsy. I left.
The group was standing around, collectively indecisive about where to go, when I saw two girls pass by. They doubled back to take a picture of some graffiti. I waited until they were done taking the picture, then walked in front of them and opened them directly. The girl doesn’t know the craziest thing she’s done. I guessed that they’re not from here, I forget if I was right or not. Tried to go for number, she said no, she has a boyfriend. They walked away.
I saw a girl with what seemed to be her family. After crossing the street, they hugged and separated, so I went up to her, opened her direct. Apparently she was still with family! Her dad and mom were right next to her. I said to the father, “Hi! Your daughter is really cute.” He stared deep into my soul. I continued, asked for her number, she said no, I left.
I saw a few groups of students outside a dorm, chatting. I went up to group of three girls and one guy, direct to one of the girls. She didn’t give me her name when I introduced myself, I had to ask her for it. When I qualified her, she told me she’s not interested.
I went direct on two girls and one guy, asked her what the craziest thing she’s done was, she said she’s kind of average. We talked about snowboarding a little bit. Conversation dries up, eject.
I went direct on three tall girls. When asked about the craziest thing she’s done, she asked why she should tell me. I told her I want to find out more about her. She said bye.
I went direct on two girls walking. I asked what was special about one of the girls, who responded with, “I’m in love.” I responded, “Wow, we just met, I didn’t know you had such strong feelings for me,” she laughs as she’s walking away. Fun times!
Three girls were walking toward the bar. I opened the last one direct, the two friends didn’t notice and kept walking. She didn’t know what to say for the craziest thing she’s ever done.
I opened a girl walking direct, but she had a fiance.
For some reason we joined a sausage fest of newbies. After what felt like an hour of standing around, we started moving.
There were five girls, one who was hailing a cab. I wasn’t sure which was the hottest, so I went for the easiest. I opened the cabbie hailer direct, she gave a lukewarm response. She rejoined her group, so I followed. She introduced me to her friends, one who was pretty cute said she liked my tattoo. Suddenly two or three of the newbies invaded, shouting, “Hey, are you guys bothering my friend?!?!” The girls instantly were creeped out. I didn’t think I could get anything out of the set at this point, but I went for a number anyway. I ejected, walked toward the rest of the newbies, and shouted, “Those guys creeped the shit out of my girls!” They all bowed their heads in apology, haha. U5 patted me on the back and said, “Now you know how I’ve been feeling all night.”
I saw two guys and a girl together. The girl split off and walked away. I caught up to her and opened her direct. She didn’t know what the craziest thing she’s done was. She also said she was sick. I told her I’d call her later, she said no and walked away increasingly faster. Oh well!
I directly opened a girl hailing a cab. She said she was with someone, bye.
I saw two girls sitting at a table. I sat directly across from the girl I thought was cuter and opened her direct. (At the time I didn’t realize she was sitting on a two seat bench, otherwise I would have sat next to her instead.) She said there was nothing special about her. Martyr winged me, but moments later a guy came in and extracted her. I left.
I directly opened two girls, they said they were tired, bye.
I saw a tall blond standing by herself, opened her direct. She said the craziest thing she’s done was going to Europe alone or something. We talked about traveling, running, rollerblading, and thick calves. Her friend comes by and pulls her away. I’m not sure if she wanted to stay, but I should have tried to get her to stay.
One of the bartenders from a previous bar invited me to an afterparty at another bar. I later found her there, and when I went to talk to her, she pulled Martyr in and had a little secret chat. I was confused, but whatever. She later came by and started insisting on me dancing with her, so I started grinding up against her. Still confused. Martyr later tells me that apparently she thought that U5 and I were gay, and the little dance was apparently proof that we were, in fact, gay. Oh well, maybe the next time I go to the bar I can have her “convert” me.
I saw a girl about to cross the street. I went after her, opened her direct. We were talking but I noticed that she was walking increasingly faster. I left.
I opened a girl direct. She said that she was hanging out with some people. A guy from that group came out and told me he’s her boyfriend. I told him he’s a lucky guy and left.
W opened two girls. We all chatted a bit, but they walked away soon after that.
We were having anxiety all night, but we were determined to at least approach one more girl each before changing venues. I didn’t want to waste my last approach, so I looked all over for the hottest girl. I found her on the second floor, opened her direct. I asked her what was the craziest thing she’s done, she said she had a boyfriend. I left.
Later I found the guys hanging around. Apparently we weren’t leaving yet! I saw another hot girl, very similar looking to the last one. I wasn’t sure if it was the same girl, but I decided that I’d rather reapproach the same girl than risk letting her go. I opened her direct. It turns out she was the same girl! She still has a boyfriend! I told her I had to find out if she was the same girl and left.
Approach anxiety was in full swing tonight. I worried that my social freedom momentum was gone, but it was probably just the loud bar environment, which I’ve always hated and wanted to work on. It doesn’t matter, though, I just need to get through it. No point in whining.
It was somewhat rainy out, so not many people were out.
I went bar hopping with my ex. I saw a hot waitress but she was always talking to her coworkers.
On my way into another bar, I spotted a cute girl waiting outside. Nothing was in the bar, we exit and walk by her again. Finally I tell my ex, “I really should talk to that girl,” give her the umbrella, and open her direct. She said it was a good line, I said, “That’s not a line!” I introduce myself, then ask her what’s the craziest thing she’s done. She said, “I don’t know, I’ve done so many things…” I told her to name one. She said she drove all the way to a Cubs game and then immediately back. I related a story about how I recently gave away a bunch of baseball tickets that I got from donating blood. I felt that she was very attracted to me, but I didn’t want to keep my ex waiting, so I told her that I had to go but wanted to continue the conversation. She gave me her number, and as she was spelling her name, I noted how it was the name of a movie character, then in a seductive voice told her, “You were really hot in that movie.” She giggled like a school girl, haha. After I got her number, I told her I’ll talk to her later, she told me, “Call me!”
It felt really good to be able to brighten up a girl on such a dreary night.
Wing pointed out a girl, opened direct, chatted a bit, tried to get her number but she said she wasn’t giving it to me. Oh well.
At a bar with country music playing. I saw two girls hanging near the bathroom. I asked them about all the people playing fiddles, they said it’s blue grass and that they play every Wednesday at this bar. I touched her on the arm and back, when she showed me the picks on her fingers I held her hand a little bit. They excused themselves to make a call, so I let them go.
On my way back home, I walked near a bar that’s always packed. I asked a girl what kind of venue this is, another girl answered that it’s a great place, that there’s art and beer. A fight broke out behind me, I walked away.
Sinn to girl on subway, but I had to get off immediately after.
Sinn to girl on street, her name is Chanel but spelled with an ‘S’, I told her I had to go but would like to see her sometime, bf, eject.
Eating dinner alone, saw a table with three girls, “Are you friendly?” sat down, practiced tonality, socialized.
Walk toward two girls, just as I was about to open, friend asks me to take picture. I say, “Actually, I came here to talk to your friend,” and use Sinn’s direct opener. She said my hair was fabulous, then asks me again to take picture with them. Sure, why not. After the pictures I lose interest, get friend’s e-mail and leave.
Situational opener just to socialize, practiced delivering stories and frame control.
In car when I saw a cute girl walk by, got out, chased after her, Sinn, she doesn’t talk to strangers.
Was waiting for Martyr, so did some solo gaming at various stores. Saw a girl in a pharmacy, Sinn, she’s special because she’s about to go to the gym, asked her to go for coffee, no, I said it’s just coffee, no again. As I’m leaving, two people down the aisle got caught staring and immediately look away, haha.
Saw a cute Asian girl at a bookstore. Sinn, but found out she’s too young, eject.
Girl from yesterday canceled on me. I ignore her cancellation text and called her, she didn’t pick up. I pretended I didn’t see her text and texted her, “Sorry I’m going to be late, how about we just have coffee real quick?” Still no go, said she’s stuck uptown.
Score: 103
I hadn’t done the SF exercises in a while, kind of rusty. Also I just quit for the exercises that I am too anxious to do, otherwise I waste my time doing nothing. Hopefully I’ll be able to do them all in an hour soon!
Strangely, the SF exercises made me anxious afterward, so I needed to do some warm up sets: Interesting/friendly, she says no, I playfully plow, what you up to, waiting for friend, friends arrive, she leaves.
Saw a girl sitting by herself at a cafe, bubble6969, she cracks up, chat about her magazines, gotta go, got her number.
Sinn, just as I finish the introductions she says I caught her at a bad time, she had to go somewhere. I go for number, she said she doesn’t give numbers to strangers.
Met a PUA from a forum. I asserted that kisses on the cheek mean nothing, then approached: “I’m having a bad day and need a hug”, hug and kiss on cheek, I thank her, banter, she gets on the phone and needed to go, I thank her again, tell her we should talk again, I put in my number and hit dial, hug and kiss cheek again.
Girl sitting by herself eating, Sinn, on her lunch break, said she has no time to talk, I asked to talk another time, she doesn’t give numbers to strangers, bye.
Sex last week, I was nervous, she said no, gave me a weirded out look, eject.
Sinn, sort of seeing someone, eject.
Marytr points out girl he couldn’t approach, Sinn, snowboarding, ran dry, eject, reapproach, boyfriend, bye.
Sinn from behind as they were crossing street, weirded out, walked away from me.
Saw tall girl on cell, had to prove to myself that it’s possible to approach girls on cells, Sinn, she closes phone, laughs, says she doesn’t know me, I suggest getting to know her better over coffee, has boyfriend, I said it’s just coffee, no, kiss her on hand, bye.
Went to a lounge, saw a hot Brazilian two set seated, pulled seat next to her, Sinn, she’s a gyno, plowed on several topics until hit on Harry Potter, which she loved, and wound up kinoing me a lot for. I later awkwardly moved to sit on her sofa instead of being on separate seats, but wound up having her bag between us, and her body language was facing away from me. I decided Harry Potter wasn’t nearly sexual enough, so I asked her to teach me Portuguese, asked her how to say “hello”, “good bye”, and “take off your panties”. She got offended, and a guy walking by AMOGed me and stole my girl. Haha, oh well.
Winged for Martyr, blocking friend from target almost the whole time. Friend didn’t like me much, wound up talking to bartender, which saved me a lot of talking. I just stood there, in case she came back.
Had two beers with Martyr, to celebrate our awesomeness!
Saw a kind of cute Asian girl at end of bar, Sinn, she’s from Seattle and leaving tomorrow (which I took to mean no date, but at the time I didn’t think of SNL), conversation dried, eject.
Girl outside bar on phone for train schedule, we chatted her up a little, tried to use a kiss routine “On a scale of 1 to 10, how good of a kisser are you?” “8″ “Let’s find out.” Pulled away, eject.
Martyr passed by cute girl, then curses that he didn’t talk to her. I ask, who? He points her out. I say, “So go! Wait… fuck that! We are not playing the ‘you take it, no you take it’ game anymore!” and went up to her. Sinn’s direct, she shoots guns, skis, from LA, here for a bridal shower, set up date tomorrow. Martyr was upset, haha.
You look familiar, she asks if I went to Cornell, I say no, sex last week, she says no, who are you, get away, don’t touch me, I will slap you, walks away.
Sex last week, no, gave really weirded out look, eject.
Opened two girls, one guy with “you seem interesting, are you friendly?” to practice socializing without hitting on anyone. All night long I have been unable to find hot girls to hit on.
Sinn’s direct, she says she’s special because she’s Stephanie. Unfortunately she’s part of bachelorette party, walks away.
Saw two girls and one guy sitting outside a restaurant, open with interesting/friendly just to be social.
Sinn, didn’t hear, you’re cute, she’s married, eject
She looks bored, moved to next to me, bf? Comes, leaves
Martyr and I started doing a competitive game, where if one of us sees a girl but doesn’t have the balls to go, the other will steal the girl. This has encouraged us to go for girls the moment we see them, instead of stalling. Shiz wanted to participate in it.
Shiz couldn’t open, so I stole his girl, haha. Sex last week, friend says yes she is without hearing what I asked, I continue the opener, she gets into my frame, I build rapport, conversation dries, eject.
I tell a girl in a 3 set from behind that she looks familiar from behind, she ignores me.
Sinn’s direct, but she just got here, walks away.
Sinn’s direct, she has a boyfriend.
Sinn’s direct, she is really sarcastic and bitchy, tells me to get my hand off her back, eject
Sinn’s direct on two girls on the street, she looks cold, I put my arm around her to warm her up, she says that’s okay, walks away.
Saw two girls walking, I couldn’t open, Martyr started walking to her, I said, “WTF, that’s my girl!”, ran and overtook him, Sinn, introduced myself, they walked away.
Sinn, from Chicago had to go, bye. Reopened later, got number before leaving.
Chased a girl into subway, Sinn, said she’s got a boyfriend who she’s madly in love with, I leave.
Saw two girls at a restaurant, looked really young. Asked them how old they were, said they were 20, Sinn, but they had zero energy. I wished them a good night.
Chased four set down, Sinn, just came from boyfriend’s bar, eject.
I skim through You-Know-Who’s blog sometimes, for shits and giggles. What can I say, it’s my guilty pleasure.
In this blog, stories of glorious adventures are spewed. Pictures of hot girls are posted, though the pictures are usually copied off the internet and rarely include himself.
I suspected that the pictures meant nothing, having heard many reports of You-Know-Who only hitting on ugly girls. For example, this girl supposedly looks like Kat Dennings: To show how similar they look, he even includes a picture of Kat Dennings: I must go to the optometrist soon, they look totally different to me!
The other night Martyr and I were talking on the street, when I spotted a girl from behind. He read my mind and slowed down, falling behind. I got a better look at the girl and decided she’s not for me. Martyr caught up and asked, “Not for you?”
I loved how it was as though we were jets, swooping for the kill: Me: Possible target detected, going in for confirmation. Martyr: Going into attack formation. Me: Negative, object is a dud. Martyr: Returning to scout formation.
I was walking with Martyr when a tall blond passed us. Martyr turned around, ran into me, and blamed me for getting in his way. I flung him toward her, but he said to forget it, the momentum’s gone. So I went.
I caught up to her and used Sinn’s direct opener. Asked her what was special about her, she said she doesn’t know. I said, “Come on, you’ve got to do something for fun!” She said, “Shopping.” I teased her about being a shopaholic, we talked about snowboarding/skiing for a bit. This whole time she was still walking, and I was walking alongside her. So I eventually said I have to go, and that I’d like to see her sometime. She said she has a boyfriend, so I wished her a good night and left.
I saw three girls ahead of me, one of them a tall blond in a green dress. I sped up and caught up to them as they were crossing the street. Used Sinn’s direct opener, she said she was in a hurry, I let her go.
Saw a girl waiting for the subway. Last week’s lay, she walked away. Raven said she was laughing afterward.
Crashed a boutique’s opening party, chatted with some people there. There were some hot girls but I felt uncomfortable talking to them, since they were sitting on the couch and I was crashing the party. Eventually they left, and there were no hot girls to talk to. At that point I realized that I really don’t know how to socialize with people, other than hot girls.
Went to a bar. Really out of state, I couldn’t talk to anyone. It could have something to do with the music. We went to a dive bar for a while, and decided to leave. I managed to squeak a compliment to a girl about her tattoos, which she thanked me for. Eject.
Saw two girls on the street, decided I’ve had enough of fear, went up to them and last week’s lay. She denied it, said she was in Sweden, I said, “Really? You look just like her. Okay, just in case it is you, I am SO sorry for not calling! I’ve been busy. You were good, though, and so was your friend.” They were loving it, then like a fool I ejected.
Went to a very empty bar. There were three girls there, U5 talked to two, I talked to the third. Smart test, riddle, how do you say “take off your pants” in Danish. Made fun of her for dressing like a zebra, had my arm around her lower back and shoulders a few times. Really boring to talk to, but I had to wing for U5.
Saw a girl get out of the subway. Walked toward her, “You look familiar…”, she slowed slightly but walked right by.
Went to a bookstore in my neighborhood. Martyr was there before me, and had found two cute girls. I didn’t like one of them, but the other I agreed was cute. I then threatened to approach her if he didn’t. He hesitated, and I approached. I’ve never approached at this particular bookstore before, so it’s a first for me.
She was sitting on the floor, so I sat down next to her and used Sinn’s direct opener. I couldn’t ask her what was special about her, I was really nervous. But I didn’t get up even though my mind just went blank. I wound up just saying, “Soo…. what’s up?” in a really pathetic way. I could feel that there was someone to my left, staring at us. She was also looking at this person, if he or she were there. Finally she said, “I’m here with someone.” I said, “Okay, well, good night!” and left.
Earlier in the night I had spotted two girls having yogurt. I checked them out twice without approaching, then went to the bookstore to meet with Martyr. As we left, I told Martyr about the two girls I noticed earlier. He checks them out, says it’s not for him. I finally approach them with Sinn’s opener, and they are completely weirded out. They probably saw us checking them out, and I was definitely nervous. I wished them good night and ejected.
Went to dinner, then met up with Martyr again. I didn’t really spot anything I wanted to approach, though. Or maybe it was anxiety. We departed, I saw a hot girl standing by a store, smoking and on the cell. I waited for about ten minutes for her to get off the phone, outside her line of sight, and then said, “Fuck it,” and left her.
Hung out with U5, pretty cool guy. He seemed like one of the few people on the forum I would get along with very well, with his life and game philosophies.
He suggested a bar uptown, but it turned out to be a sports bar with about two girls. He was late, I walked in and scoped the place out. I was nervous, so once I confirmed that he wasn’t in there, I hung around the street.
I saw a girl walking by herself, said, “You look familiar,” she said she doesn’t speak English and walks away.
U5 arrives. We take a walk around the bar again, I point out that there’s only about two girls, we decide to leave. Before leaving, I decide to talk to the two girls. I was nervous, used last week’s lay, to which one of the girls said, “That’s the worst pickup line I’ve ever heard.” I try to save it a little, but eventually leave.
We walk around looking for bars and girls. Pass by a coffee shop, use Sinn’s direct opener. She wasn’t very into it, said she’s special because she’s with her friend right there. Lame. I leave.
We pass by a girl going into her apartment. Sinn’s direct opener, she was nervous because she probably thought I was trying to break in, but she still says she’s a dancer. I leave the poor frightened girl to go home.
We arrive at a familiar bar. I see three girls, sitting together, two who look like they belong in junior high school. I ask how old they are, they say they are legal, we banter a little, they say they are visiting and staying in this building. U5 joins, I try to talk to them a little but I got really bored of them.
We get into an elevator. The elevator buzzes that it’s over the weight limit. A cougar calls me fat, and as soon as I leave the elevator it stops buzzing. We banter a little until the elevator door closes between us. I get on the next elevator and when I exit I see her standing around. I confronted her about calling me fat, she says she’s just joking, we are talking really close, face to face, I touch her a little, but I’m not really into her so I just say bye.
Saw two cute girls having dinner at a patio. Made a Mission: Impossible run, going all the way around the restaurant, through the patio, and finally went up to them and used Sinn’s direct opener, without the qualification. Bantered a bit, wished them a good night.
Saw a tall, hot girl in what appeared to be a double date. I wussed out on last week’s lay, ending it at “You look really familiar”. Said she’s not from around here, I talk with the group a little, eject.
Saw a hot girl with a guy and a girl. Last week’s lay, guy says, “Okay, I’m out of here!” and leaves. Continue opener, girl’s laughing, unfortunately her friend pulls her away.
U5 pointed out two girls about to cross the street about a block away. I ran and chased two girls, used Sinn’s direct opener, they continued to walk away, one girl laughs.
U5 heads home and so do I. On my way back, I see a hot, tall girl with interesting shoes. I compliment them, talk about them a little, about where she’s from. Eject.
Told girl I had to tell her she was cute, she’s a special ed. teacher, told her about teaching my cousins, compliments my chain, walks away, I don’t plow. I later reopen and say bye.
Complimented her pendant, Martyr reopens direct, I AMOG him for fun, then he leaves and I get her number. Yes, I was selfish, I didn’t really like her that much, but I hadn’t gotten a number in a while and needed the reassurance that I’ve still got it. =P
We both spot a cute girl walking in front of us, but neither of us go for it. Eventually she reaches her car. Martyr walks right by, I approach her and told her she’s cute. She’s kind of freaked out because she just unlocked her car, probably thought I was going to hijack her, eject.
Last week’s lay to girl reading by herself, kept plowing with opener until she agreed to it, asked what she’s reading, ejected. Everyone watching saw that she was into me, but I pussied out. Oh well.
Martyr pointed out girl walking by store, I chased and told her she’s cute, she didn’t like me touching her shoulder, thanked and she kept walking away from me.
I saw a girl walking over, then she started waving. I decided to wait to see who she was waving to. It turns out it was a guy and a girl she was meeting up with. As soon as they join, I walk to the mixed three set, said she was beautiful. Her friends mini-isolated us. I ask to meet up, she says she doesn’t give number, I say maybe next time, eject.
Martyr saw a blond sitting with a guy from behind, I tell him to go. He makes up an excuse about the guy being there and moments later, he walks away! I tell him to go, he doesn’t, so I go. Started beginning of last week’s lay (“You look familiar”) but when I saw her I realized she wasn’t hot, just finished with, “I guess my mistake” and ejected.
Sat next to girl and said she’s cute, found out she had boyfriend, had platonic conversation, ejected.
Chased girl into subway, said she’s cute, ejected.
Sinn’s direct opener, talked about snowboarding, she had to meet dad and suddenly left.
Talked to girl about her hair.
Mom and daughter, told her I noticed she was cute, they gave me a stare like I called her a zebra, I eject.
Chased another girl down subway, Sinn’s direct opener, said I wanted to see her again, said she’s got boyfriend but always up for more friends, I get her e-mail and number.
Summary: These past few days, anxiety has been a lot more manageable. I hope this keeps up! Gotta stop ejecting, though.
Last week’s lay to girl standing at corner, she said not unless boyfriend was there, she liked my shirt, asked where we supposedly met, I made something up, ejected. I must say, this is probably the dumbest thing I’ve done in the past four months, she was so hot.
Passed by two girls eating dinner, went into restaurant, said they were cute, eject.
At a loud club I’ve never been to before: Last week’s lay to three girls, fumbled opener, no, didn’t plow, eject.
Tried to do high five opener to two girls, one said no thanks, other girl said she’d high five me, I hugged her after, but ejected.
Last week’s lay to mixed four set, blowout. Boyfriend later confronts me, asked if I said something to his girl, I said I thought she was someone I knew, he said, “Oh, okay”, I apologize, shake his hand, and he leaves.
Last week’s lay, she unenthusiastically agrees with everything I say, at the end of opener she said she was actually with her friend right there, I apologize and eject.
Ask three set what’s up, ask for lounges, explain I’m not from here, kino lower back, eject.
Last week’s lay to two girls at bar, couldn’t hear her, she just turned her friend and ignored me.
Summary: Still don’t have a good handle on loud clubs, or maybe it’s a new venue. Still approached, but I had a lot of anxiety.
The night before I had talked to Martyr about my anxiety, and we came to the conclusion that it’s probably coming from inner game issues. So I reread an inner game article and a blow me or blow me out thread by Brad P., which got me really pumped up for the rest of the night! I’m going to make that a part of my routine, before going out.
I was determined to get outside my comfort zone, so I chose to use the “last week’s lay” opener, which I’ve been dying to use for the past few weeks, but didn’t have the balls to actually pull it off.
Asked girl on bench if we had sex last week, she said no, I said oh, okay, and left. On my way out I heard her laughing. Even though I didn’t finish the opener, I felt great!
Asked girl leaning on a fence if we had sex last week. She just starts ignoring me. I say, “So is that a yes?” She tells me to fuck off. My first blow out in a long time! I feel great!
I’m walking by, when a tall girl grabs my necklace and talks about it. I make up a story about how it’s just an ordinary necklace but girls always ask if I’m into polygamy and have two girlfriends. She asks if I have two girlfriends, I say no, I have eight, go into routine. We build rapport for a while, standing where we she opened me, then an even taller guy comes along and her hand’s all over him, so I assume boyfriend and leave.
We took an elevator with two cougars, talked with them a bit, then later saw them again. They were all over us, both of them insisted on giving us their info and insisted on us calling them.
My friends and I always joked about a funny opener, but never had the balls to try it out. Tonight I had the balls, so I went up to three girls, sat down at the empty seat as though we were friends, and immediately asked, “Have you ever noticed… how beautiful… my eyes are?” One laughed, the other two were kind of amused, we chatted some more, they tried to build rapport with me but I wasn’t really into them, I was just having a good time. I left.
Saw a cute girl in a big 7 set at a street corner. I know they were saying goodbye, so I waited around until they split up. (Divide and conquer!) Once they split, I hesitated just a little bit, and went in, asked if we had sex last week. She had a stunned look on her face, said no, I continued, “I was kind of drunk, I dunno…” and her friend dragged her away. I don’t count it as a blowout because the blowout was initiated by the friend, not by her, would that be accurate?
Passed by a girl on the street, walked about half a block, chased her down the block while she was waiting for the light, started this long direct opener by Sinn. She had headphones on, so midway through she took them off and I had to say it again. She thanked me. I am still not good at this opener, so I had no contingencies, and I just left.
Summary: I was in state last night, and it felt so much easier to use other openers, once I used “last week’s lay”! I need to keep using it to get comfortable with it, I hope my social freedom keeps increasing like last night!
I got a number of a girl from a social networking site a few days ago. She texted me if I’m free, so I decide to invite her to meet me with my friends, so I can social proof myself. While waiting for her, I start doing social freedom exercises, scored a 103 until my date arrived.
Had a good time the first half of the date, wound up at lesbian night at a lounge! Kinoed but didn’t kiss. Halfway through, the energy kind of died. I should have tried for a kiss. Also I should have led more, she was the one leading most of the night. She went home, I went to meet up with my wings.
Opened some shitty sets just to be social.
Cotton candied girl on steps, chatted a bit, but I didn’t go sit next to her, I was standing in front of her the whole time. Left after a while, even though conversation was going pretty well.
Horse girled girl sitting on steps, I came from behind and sat next to her. She was receptive, built rapport, but I didn’t ask for number. She left when her guy friend came to pull her away.
Summary: Anxiety is still kind of strong, I attribute it to my energy dying midway in the date. Working on it! Also I wish I had used smart tests on either girls.
Was out with two guys in new venues. Did about 20 approaches, almost all asking for lounges or situational stuff. I read some of my previous field reports and realized I did a lot more approaches in the past, so I am going to try to do that to get myself into a more social mood, and as I get more comfortable, use better openers and routines.
Horse girled a Russian model. She didn’t know what “horse” meant and I had to look up the word “horse” on her Russian-English dictionary, haha.
Did social freedom exercises while waiting for my wing(s), scored 89.
Had lots of anxiety. Managed to open two girls with cotton candy, but didn’t push either.
I tried to talk to a hot girl on the steps from behind. I timidly tapped her from behind, get in a “Hi” before she immediately turns away.
Loiter around, pissed off at myself, gather up enough anger and determination to approach a girl sitting by herself on the steps. I sit right next to her, hi, what’s up, talk about her skirt, chatted about 20 minutes. I set up a date, tell her I’ve got to look for my friend, I leave. Martyr tells me to go back in, I go back in and just let her know I’m really going now, bye. She gave me a look of attraction as I walked away, according to Martyr. I texted her later, she forgot my name so I used Brad Pitt line, she cracks up via text.
Summary: These two weeks my anxiety has shot up. I realize I’ve also not done as many cold approaches as I had in the past, which may have to do with me trying hard to do solo game. So now I am trying to get my wings out so I at least do the approaches.
Also the majority of my time has been taken up by either personal things or going on dates. I am trying to avoid going to too many social events, to give myself more time to do cold approaches, but I am not sure about avoiding dates. I have been going on dates and slowly, slowly have been pushing things further each time. I don’t want to just drop my girls, but I also don’t want to spend all my time on dates that don’t go anywhere. I will try to escalate my dates faster, so that at least I can get blown out and have more time to cold approach.
There was a lot of rain today. I was by myself, and I saw a girl ducking for cover about ten feet away from me. I hesitated for about half an hour, called Martyr for emotional support, and finally she disappeared. *sigh*
Had two dates set up, but girl #2 canceled due to the rain. Texted her back to cancel, double flake reversal, now I have more time with girl #1.
Met up with girl #1 at a cafe near my place, had lunch. Mentioned in passing that I really wanted to watch a specific action/romantic comedy movie, then after we were done eating she wants to do something stupid and I suggest we watch the aforementioned movie instead. She agrees, we go to my place and watch it.
She hates the movie and let’s me know exactly why, throughout the movie. I’m completely turned off at this point, I don’t even want to touch her. I text a friend as an emergency exit, she calls me back. I loudly say, “Are you alright? You need to talk? Here? Um, okay, I guess.” I sadly inform my date that my friend had some personal issues and is coming over to chat.
Something weird happens, though: she says TV sucks, we turn it off, she starts getting physical. I still didn’t have the balls to kiss her, but I give her a massage and am working my way around her body when my friend buzzes.
Oh well.
We have boring conversation, a boring dinner, then finally she leaves.
In an effort to battle social anxiety, I started playing the two minute game, invented by Shiz. (You must approach within two minutes of not being in set.) Approached about ten girls, though after a while I burned out because I couldn’t find new girls. Used shitty openers for most of the night, except one cotton candy, which I didn’t push.
Went to another venue. Saw one girl standing around by herself. Asked for lounges, wound up building rapport for a bit, kinoed, tried to move her from the loud dance area to patio, which she refused twice saying she’s waiting for her friends, so I left her.
I went on a date with Japanese girl. I saw her, we hugged and walked toward the restaurant. As usual, they only had tables facing each other. We had a fun time chatting, but no touching of course.
Afterward we went to a supermarket to get some stuff for my hair. While we were there we started discussing food, and I bought a bag of frozen food. My place was right around the area, so once we left the supermarket I proposed that we drop off the food at my place before we go to the next destination. She was hesitant about it, asking me where I’m leading her, but I kept insisting that she’s the stalker and that I’m just giving her a fair chance.
We arrive at my place, but I didn’t have the right ambiance. I turned on the air conditioner but there was no music and no movie playing, nor was there any pictures for me to show her. These are all things I need to prepare in the future! After chatting and joking for about two hours, I think she started getting tired, so I suggested we go to the final destination.
We got there, it was closed. I walked her to the train station. Hug and kiss on the cheek, bye bye.
I’m glad I managed to get a girl to my place, first time! Unfortunately I didn’t take advantage of the situation, and my room wasn’t “lay ready”, as one of my friends would say.
Tonight I had ten approaches to finish, but I couldn’t start until midnight because I was running a 10k.
I mostly asked for cotton candy and suggestions for lounges. The whole night I felt very unmotivated and anxious. Drinking Diet Coke helped, though, so perhaps I just needed caffeine. At the peak of my caffeine high I saw two hot girls at the bar by themselves, so I walked straight to them and said they seemed interesting, are they friendly? They laughed and said of course they’re friendly. I said I don’t know, I’ve encountered some bitches in my time, that this one time a girl said she wasn’t friendly and physically shoved me, as I playfully pushed her. She said yeah, we’re real bitches, and play pushed me. Martyr comes in, I say hey, these girls are real bitches. We laugh, talk a little, but I run out of things to say and leave.
When I had two more approaches to do, Martyr pointed out a cute girl at a diner and told me to go finish my approaches. I was heading back to go into the diner when I saw two girls just get off a cab and head in my direction. I walked toward them and asked them for lounges. We discuss some things, say that I just moved into the neighborhood. They go into the diner. A few seconds later I go in, tell the original girl I was going to talk to that I noticed her while walking by the diner and just had to tell her she was very cute, and to have a good night. Martyr said the girls were beaming and staring at me as I left. One thing I was proud of myself for doing was that when I went into the diner, the two girls I asked for lounges were sitting right behind the girl I said was cute, and I just went in and did what I wanted to do. I didn’t let the fact that those two girls were probably listening and looking at me stop me.
In the future I should not group my approaches together so much. In addition to having less pressure at the end of the month, I feel that I will get more experience if I consistently approach women daily, rather than in spurts. Also the minimum I should approach per month is 30, but it is recommended to do 100.
Paraphrasing Office Space, do I really want to just do the minimum? No, I think I’d like maximum achievement.
